As God’s daughters, one of the challenges we have to push through is the world’s view of women as weak and unable to succeed without someone else’s help. This kind of mindset that we keep bumping up against is tremendously frustrating when we’re trying to focus on fulfilling God’s assignment on our lives. Thankfully, studying the original Greek translation of our Bibles gives us an understanding of the Greek term kephale as it relates to Christ being our enabler. We find our purpose and our ability to live in victory only in Him.

Everything—including you and me—finds its completion in God. He’s our completer, which means that in whatever it is we’re trying to do in our lives, we have to recognize that it’s Him who completes the work; He finishes everything we start but can’t finish. He recently reminded me that even in my relationships, the most critical relationship isn’t any of the ones I make with others, but the relationship I have with Him.

We can make the mistake of letting the world define us through the incomplete, imperfect relationships we make with other people, which affects our self-image. This is why it’s so very, very important that we see ourselves in Christ. Ladies, how many of you have felt the need for another person to complete you? When we have a relationship with God, He completes us.

If we’re honest with ourselves, we’ll admit that we tend to try to please others. This takes up a lot of time and effort, and it’s exhausting. We don’t have to do that! We’re in Christ; therefore, God is already pleased with us.

God is satisfied with us. As our satisfied heavenly Father, He has already approved of us. He longs for us to run to Him when we get hurt and need comforting; He wants to encourage us when we’re down, and shower us with love just because that’s the way He is. He wants to make our lives easier so that we won’t keep struggling and beating our heads against the ground.

Leaning into God’s grace and fullness empowers us as women. The union we have with being in Christ, and Him being in us, takes the pressure off us to succeed through our own merits, complete all our tasks through our own skills, or close the sale using our own resources. We put too much emphasis on our own strength, tenacity, cleverness, wherewithal, and willpower. There’s something to be said about immersing ourselves in Him and recognizing His plan for our success.

The tasks that we set out to do will be dicey unless God is involved with them. The best plans that we develop will fall apart if we put them in place without first asking Him what steps to take and in what order. Our plans may look beautiful on paper, and we may have covered all the details from A to Z, but we run into situations we didn’t expect. People are quirky; we could have expected a certain response but didn’t get it.

God brings us to the end of ourselves so we can determine whether what we’re doing is about us or about Him. Is this about glorifying ourselves and patting ourselves on the back for a job well done, or is it an opportunity to testify that God completed something we were unable to by ourselves? God is our everything. Let Him give you the ability to successfully live everyday life.