As couples, the quality of our relationships greatly impacts our overall happiness, especially when we are married. Marriage is a blessing and a gift from God, but many people don’t truly understand His original intent for it. With divorce rates at an all-time high and many young people today choosing to remain single, marriage has gotten a bad reputation. But God’s design for this sacred relationship is radically different than the world’s view.
Growing up, many of us were taught that the man is the head of the household, and we’ve probably heard about how the husband is supposed to “wear the pants in the family.” Those ideas are actually based
That all changed when Adam and Eve sinned in the garden of Eden. The gender equality they previously enjoyed disappeared, and the stage was set for unequal relationships, patriarchy, and male domination. This was not God’s original plan, but sin brought consequences. “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in
This continued until Jesus was born to undo the damage that was done and re-establish gender equality. Some of the ways He did this included speaking to women who were considered social outcasts (John 4:5-27), and showing mercy and compassion to women seen as inferior in a male-dominated society (John 8:1-11). Jesus challenged the traditional mindset of men exercising dominion over women, and He willingly died on the cross to abolish the curse that locked men and women into unequal relationships.
Most people are unaware that the way marriage and gender relationships have evolved is biblically incorrect, but the Scriptures reveal that God never meant for men to be above women or for women to be subservient.“And the Lord shall make thee the head, and not the tail; and thou shalt be above only, and thou shalt not be beneath; if that thou hearken unto the commandments of the Lord thy God, which I command thee this day, to observe and to do them” (Deuteronomy 28:13). This applies equally to both men and women. In contemporary terms, hearkening to His commandments means believing this promise and letting it change the way we think about marriage.
Accepting what Jesus Christ teaches liberates us from traditional gender stereotypes (John 8:32). He loves us all equally and our relationships should reflect that. Freedom in Christ extends to everyone!